Post 20 of 21 of the #newhabitchallenge.
Hello peeps, this note is a simplified, shorter version of a letter I wrote to myself almost 6 months ago. I wrote it to myself exactly how I would write it to a friend in need of a warm and fuzzy mood booster. Because we should always talk to ourselves the same way we talk to our best friends.
I needed my own voice to reason with me. It felt empowering. Each time I read it to myself in moments of struggle, it empowers me some more. This is my gift to you today. I hope it helps.
Down? Read me.
Babe, don’t worry about this happening to you. This is part of who you are. It’s got beauty in it, trust me. Accept it, dish it out in a journal or on plain old paper - and give yourself the space for a good cry and get excited because it’ll soon pass and you’ll get back on the horse stronger than ever.
What you’re experiencing is part of growth. It’s a process. Give yourself a couple weeks; get your mood tracker and see for yourself: it’s a few days of fuss, and then a few days of negative thoughts and doubt. Do yourself a favor and don’t draw any conclusions, or make any decision until this fog lifts.
Tell your love you need space… and that you love him/her - no matter how distant that may feel. It’s normal to feel the way you feel. You are complex. A mess sometimes, but a beautiful one. You can forgive yourself for being human.
Cultivate your separateness from the world. Always see that your contribution be kind. That is the true you. Don’t fear. Don’t feel you ought to follow the narrative. You are free. You are human. You are independent and beautiful. Pick up your phone and call your best friend, and tell her or him about feeling down. Get close to your friends, tell them about feeling blue - most likely, they’re feeling (or felt) the same way. Go dance in the living room. Go walk in nature, blasting music in your ears.
Remember who you are. You are intelligent, in your own way certainly. Be proud to be original. You have always been extremely sensitive, and you’ve developed ways of coping, that’s all. Whoever treated you with disrespect was just doing his/her best with what he/she had. Don’t take it personally.
You are a strong one. Go for a run, go to the gym every other day for the next two weeks. WhatsApp that sporty friend you love and get her or him to coach you. You need it, you need to punch, you need to rage. There’s energy inside you that is building up. Pick up a book and read a chapter. Loveability. Puissance de la Joie.
I know you feel like a victim right now, crushed under a many-level competition, the expectations of society, the fear of having disappointed, feeling of not being enough. Stop it. You can’t change what happened to you, but you can change the way you react to it. NOW, it’s time to decide how you want to react.
- Although, you are still totally aloud to feel low for a while so if you’re not there yet, don’t sweat it. -
Remember your parents did their best.
You are awesome, you’re sweet, you’re charming, you’re talented. Don’t worry about not being as good as others - there are always going to be people better and people worse than you at things. In everything. All your life. Knowing that and being okay with it: that is humility. Don’t listen to whatever other mean voice is in your head - listen to yours: “I'm capable. I'm worthy. I’m humble. I care”. Think about the fact that there are times when you have confidence and drive. You are a little leader. You’ve got that in you.
Making mistakes is part of the game. Sometimes you win, sometimes you learn. Take it from me, at least you learn. I know you’re thinking about the mistakes you made. Stop it. Sure you had it easier than some other people, but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t count. You are an independent person. It’s also about you. It’s you and your dreams. You are your own advocate.
I get that you’re scared of not being in the right place, at the right time. Know this, you’re right where you’re supposed to be, no matter how far from the narrative (in your own words, or in other people's words). Have no regrets. In your life, you did what you were intended to do, and everything you didn’t do, you had your reasons (maybe even the universe did). Don’t try to know best for past you. Live this moment.
You're okay. You're okay. You're okay."
That's it for today! If there's anything in your mind right this second, just tell me. I love to connect, and I promise to keep your anonymity if you wish it so!
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